Seriously. Even the small one messed up.
I get home from work, have to get ready for interview tonight, my daughter's friend had called, asked if my daughter was mad at her. Sometimes they argue. Anyway, so I told my daughter when she came in, that her friend called and asked that. So she sat down and said "Don't be mad, but I got in a fight today."
"Huh, a fist fight?" I said.
"Uh yeah. But she threw the first punch! It wasn't my fault! So I..... hit her back and..... threw her in a trash can and ..... threw her into a door, and..... grabbed her by the throat and pushed her really hard." Then told how the whole playground had circled them, and one of the boys literally pulled her off the other girl and said "Chill out, stop it!" Kids that age, ten, are really stupid and like seeing fights. So it must've been bad, if one stops her from fighting and prys her off the other girl.
So I asked her why the principal didnt call me. She said the teachers never saw it. Huh? How is that, they cant see, a fight like that. So my daughter was saying "Im sorry but it wasnt my fault, really!" Yeah I know self-defense and all can be justified, but going totally ape-shit? Jesus, I know both my son and daughter, probably have some little bitty bit of characteristics of me, but I prefer them to have the bodhicitta side of me. Jeez Louise!
So anyway, not sure what to do yet. At least she confessed it, instead of me hearing it another way. But shit, a trash can? And a door? Holy shit. She must've really got offended when the other girl threw that first punch. My minime isnt even that big.