There is a difference between these placements of acts, and here I want to discuss something that I call
the myth of our specialness. Specialness is 1st of all fed to us by parents and then upheld by ourselves as we grow and develop. Specialness is an amount of ideals held together mentally that affects how we act in the world. The affect is that we perceive ourselves a little like chrystal, we are preciouss about ourselves. Not only do we not want to let go of our specialness incase it breaks but we polish it daily with our thinking.
There comes a time either before or at our death where we realise fully that none of us are special. We start to see that because we have been thinking we are special that our acts have been limited to conduct our life energy into anything of standing worth. All we have done is conducted our acts towards upholding the myth that we are special. We need a special job, a special girlfriend, a special house, a special party just for 'us', a special holiday with someone special, a special car and a special reputation around town.
No one would dare let go of this image amongst the social circles, yet when alone many people are faced by how they reaaly are without their myth.
Western society is at large upheld by this myth.