I remember my first Manitou when I was actually kinda scared that I would be sacreligious or disrespectful to whomever had ceremony before. I also sensed that maybe I would conjure up some demon or something that would quickly smash me, rip me up or just have me for a midnite snack. I have ALWAYS been VERY careful in my doings. “Trepadacious” is the word, I think. I like to call my actions “always respectful”, like when in church or temple. But I think, mostly, what I have drawn from my ceremonial attempts is a closeness I have achieved with whatever was imaginable to me. I told myself these things were real and they BECAME real for me in every sense of the word I choose to ponder upon. Something in my gut, I guess. A connection with the mysterious which I could not hold onto very long with any church activities I so dearly loved as a youth and young adult. But, like I am sure I have told you before, I had to lay down my study of Don Juans’ work for a few years, once it all began to soak into me. It was like I was being sacreligious if I continued absorbing his teachings as I was. This was because I was beginning to feel myself change. I was becoming another form or maybe just realizing that there was actually another reality or consciousness available for my awareness. Then, of course, we began sharing ourselves, you and I, over the miles between Iowa and Virginia. 1989, to be exact. You sent my headband, which I call my “colors”. We, over just a few years, found a connection deeper than just being siblings and close friends.
WE FOUND SOMETHING THAT CHANGED OUR LIVES FOREVER.
I have always, in many senses, Sis, felt very much alone in my self-stalking. If it weren’t for you, I may have dropped my quest as just another fancy of what I thought I might want in my imaginings. I dunno. Either way it was so much easier to accept it all because I was not alone, even if it seemed like it a lot.
So many things were happening for me at the same time. My textile job was maturing me; my kids were really becoming fun; my marriage was falling apart and that seemed to matter less and less for me; my meditations were finally mellowing me; and, mostly, my spiritual life was again feeling very active. I hurt inside but it was a good growing pain which I was beginning to realize of myself. I WAS alone, without much adult companionship and was lonely for someone to share more of my “self” with. This was all before the Wanda jean, of course. Bryan said it the best, with regards to her entry into my life. “Before you were Dad. Now you are Tom.”
I think he understood much, much more than I could begin to imagine of him, you know? And as for Danny I struggle to bring him back into my focus. I felt good for years to just kinda “let him go” because if my expectations fell into such utter confusion or, maybe, disbelief that he wasn’t going to be very “normal”. I struggle today knowing he has hurt his brain function with the elements of his addictions. He has been in lockup again well over a year … long enough, you’d think, for a lot of the drug to have flushed out of his brain cells, I guess. But, by his responses to my written words, he seems to be repeating what I say to him. But I tell him the truth as no one else does, except maybe Bryan, as he struggles as I once did with how Danny has hurt his brother Daniel. Bryan actually hates the addict who has stolen his brother. I was there once. Once. Now I indulge in my Intent again. I pour myself upon him as I have no one else, except for the WJ. I just focus on trapping his attention. It’s all I can do; just give him SOMEONE whom he can trust as being solid.
And, Sis, I never grieved my Mother dying because of how I got to know her, and how she got to know us after I came back here. Her and the WJ would laugh and laugh in her bedroom and really “talk” when Dad wasn’t around. In the hospital I played with her stockinged-feet and sorta faked a couple of card games, because she was so high on her pain killers. Watching me build three picnic tables, she marked, “I didn’t realize that there was another carpenter in the family beside my Dad.” Yes, she glowed that night that I had a vision she was calling me to her death bed. “I’m sure going to miss you.”, she said with a very straight face.
These words, alone, justify any “sacrifice” we may have made over the years in Iowa we spent caring for her and Dad.
But, really, why did I come back home? To set you free? To earn my third feather of experience? Many reasons, my Dear. Many.
…………………… The Dance
It’s January 9th and my large studio table is beginning to take on the air of my indoor efforts at ceremony. Candles and crystals mark the six directions and Power items begin to move into more visible places. I love this time of year when my Intent takes on a life of its very own. I have a path started out in the snow to the large bonsai table which will be the focal point of my doings out there, maybe. I will draw a ring this year, for the first time, only around this table and my fire.
I want to zero in on my power and leave my Ojibwa and shields as more casual points of my gatherings. This year, because of my work schedule, my doings will be rather scattered over a couple/three intense weeks of mixed days and nights instead of the usual 2 – 3 solid days of observance. A warrior must always be flexible.
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The fog out, on this 20 degree night, makes it very luminous all over. The lights’ reflection off the fog makes it almost bright out, to me. A nice night to walk to work, so I did. I hardly drive to work at all, anymore. It’s only 3 blocks and is refreshing. Trying again to establish some chat friends on line, this time thru the Delphi forums. The Nagual Forum gave me the “thumbs down” for being “too content” and “not struggling” …. Whatever THAT means. Who could actually know, except the individual person, what kind of road has been walked and for how long? Beats me. Always so much talk about Don Juans’ words but nothing on what they actually DID. Hell, I even was accused of “trying to be an Indian” or pretending I was one. Ha!
Maybe that SpiritWarrior guy knows more about me then I do! Who knows?
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I watch Dad sleep in his wheelchair, play cards with him and oftentime sit on his bed and listen again to stories 50 years old. Now I don’t have to wonder how getting older is like because I experience it already thru him, in a way, every day. And I am sure now that this brought me to realize my own terminal condition, called humanity. It’s all so transient yet all so important. We are just where we are and need to realize that. I am thrilled to have found out, Sis, just what I am.
And, no Sis, I never thought you’d find me on a dance floor on a regular basis. But you oughta see us now; the first ones out, usually. Even catch myself showing off when we’re somewhere that there’s not many experienced dancers. Love that cha-cha.
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01/11/05
And something in me begins to change now, as the Fullest Moon approaches. Like the two of me separate most fully. I feel a big part of me leaving the daily, trivial things as quite foolish. Like the things that are really important about our lives never get found out by ordinary means and senses. And iffen most folk DID see something, it wouldn’t make any frigging sense, anyway, to them. Everything is totally alive for me. The trees and air and the ground pulsate and breathe so loudly. Humanlike figures now stand around the house, mostly just out of my direct line of sight. I sense them, large forms erect and solid, looking at me, watching me, or maybe waiting for me to get my act together or something. I think they come because I am not afraid of them anymore.
Yes, my vigor for all this is renewed with this psych job I am doing on myself. It is my 2nd 15 years of ceremony started. I am telling myself maybe my LAST 15 years, I dunno.
011505 …. Yes, my Dear, things definitely are much, much clearer now, now that I look from the Place of No Pity. I feel the world turning round beneath my wings and I understand. Hard to share, but clear to mind … the opened mind. Fears have now fallen to the wayside, to make room on the dancefloor of reality for some very serious and fun steps into “The Active Side of Infinity”.
012305. Boy, it’s the shits here at work with all this paperwork during the Manitou. Shit flying, dropping, spinning, getting pushed all over the frigging place! It’s confusing enough in here! Christ! I feel nervous, too, but it’ll pass soon. Doing a fire Monday since I’ve heard it’s supposed to be in the 40’s, at least. Cool, man.
Had quite a vision last night, outside at the front door step area on the East. The ice-covered tree started to glow and told me that she was Mom’s tree since it was the only tree she ever spoke to, since she sat out there a lot. Have deer meat, cornbread and cranberries planned for a menu.
It’s the next night, almost Monday a.m. and I am much calmer. Everything which I can cram into my time machine will be done so in the next 24 hours. Just have to get out all my Recapitulation flix, a final remix on Power Ring items done, and gathering my kindling bundles, is all that remain to be finalized. Then I will just let the dance begin without much ado at all. The deer roasts are bubbling in their crock. Forgot how good the fragrance was.
A hard wind blew the Manitou in yesterday and brought warm air with it. It might be a sloppy ceremony. I remember once in Virginia at the marina house, when it had rained heavily just before the Manitou and it was very muddy down at my burn pit area. I had stood in one spot, in ceremony stance and trance, and my boots had sunken deep into mud and I had to step out of them to free myself. It was the night of the Great Wing Flaps, remember?
To my utter amazement I find that all the Lines I thought I was drawing were there all the time, and have always been. I was merely tracing over them in an attempt to find my own position in something I thought was so vast and incomprehensible. But this world of wonder which I find myself in, the Nagual world, is so very tiny, so very refined and exact all along. I had just to find my balance again after all these many, many lifetimes. Like something right up under my nose all the time, every time. And this, my sweet sister, I had to find out for my very self. It was and is something no one could tell me. Iffen they had, I wouldn’t have gotten it anyway! Like trying to decipher a coded message that didn’t need decoding at all. All I had to do was to open my eyes!
Finale ------ The Closing of the Crack in the World
And the nights’ wind
Carried me off to
Somewhere I usually
Forget about until
It happens again, when
The full moon is fullest \
For me.
Yes the one I now see with my eyes closed, the one that brings the inanimate to life again for a few weeks each year … the only time, it seems, that I truly remember to remember what awareness can possibly entail, if one wants it hard enough.
The Warrior
Two Feathers