Try to imagine yourself a giant warehouse. In that warehouse, someone other than yourself has stored, feelings, ideas, mental dialogues and behavior patterns. Since it is your warehouse you can go in there and rummage around any time you want and use whatever you find there. The problem is that you have absolutely no say over the inventory, for it was already established before you came into possession of the warehouse. Thus you are drastically limited in your selection of items.
Unless this storehouse is cleared out, there is no way for us to be what we really are.
~Taisha Abelar