one can be influenced by another culture without 'belonging'.
the reason I say belonging is another matter, is because I have noticed with myself and others who have walked this path of trans-cultural, that belonging is a mysterious matter. Why and how one realises that one belongs is an unpredictable process. And belonging does not mean being included in the culture's social inner world - most cultural societies have a set against full inclusion, but I see that as different to belonging.
If you ever see the film 'Shadow Warrior' (Kagemusha) by Akira Kurosawa you will see a very insightful exploration of what I am speaking of here.
The reason I say that is a different matter, is that is is not necessary to 'belong' to 'feel' a culture. Many members of cultures do not realise where their culture is - they think it is in the secret social 'understandings' that one has to be born into to comprehend, but actually it is not - it is in the obvious, the way people move, the way they build, and the flow of their world. All things which sensitive people can allow to permeate into their beings, without even understanding the language. It is a feeling, not a set of constructs and agreements.
So we, who are interested in pitting one culture against another, internally, only need sufficient exposure to feel the boundaries of our own assumptions. that is the purpose we seek - I expect people like us will never really 'belong' to any culture.
However, in the other sense of belonging, as in Kurosawa's film, we can belong without being accepted - that form of belonging is a deep feeling within us that says, I feel at home in this world. That does not mean we feel trusted by the people of that culture, it means we feel an inner relaxation immediately we enter that cultural space. This has happened to me a few times - in Australia, India, Afghanistan, Greece, and Scotland. I have been to Thailand, Malaysia and Indonesia, but never had that feeling in those countries. I didn't have it in England or Ireland either - or anywhere in Europe I went to.
When I watch those clips you showed on the mexican-american, I 'felt' their cultural 'aroma'. This can't be hidden - its on display for all to see - and I was able to take that down into my psyche during the night and allow it to infuse my being.
You know, I actually find understanding the language a disability in understanding a culture - one gets caught up in tricks of the mind, instead of simply feeling.
I will admit there are levels of understanding a culture, but if you wanted to understand Australian culture, you are better to watch them on the beach, at the swimming pool and in the pub, than to listen to the drivel they speak.
What you say about the white liberals and the cultures they seek to help - yes we have that here also, but in almost all cases, it is a political issue - like trying to help in another's family fight. That is about the play of power and the endless dissatisfactions of human beings. That is not what we as warriors of freedom are concerned with.
Let me give another example. Human cultures are not the only form of cultures we are capable of 'extending' into. Animals, plants, birds and even insects are all available. the trick is to go quiet, to set aside one's own cultural stencil, and to watch carefully. You can actually feel their movements and mood in your own body - I'm sure many here already do this. Soon you begin to see the world like they do - it is a trick of our bodies, that we can absorb.
As far as human cultures, I have found the most powerful way to absorb them is to go to their homeland - it is in the land itself. That has been my realisation - the land exudes the culture. I expect in enough time, the whites in Australia will become more like the Aboriginals - we have been here only 200 years, they for over 60,000 years.
Ah, such a wonderful discussion... I could rave on for hours.