I kind of have one of those energies where when people talk to me they will unload. My boyfriend does this, friends can do it (dont worry you dont skyflower), and when I do readings online people will tend to unload after a reading. Sometimes, via unloading, it is tempting to try to save another person, from themselves or their destructive habits. But we cannot do that.
I know this sounds like a warrior must be chintzy with energy, but we must do that. A warrior must make sure they have plenty of energy for their own tasks. They have their own set of problems, and their own goals they must work on. So saving another from themselves is a huge amount of energy to be given for such an undertaking.
I have had issues with my boyfriend and he wants me to save him. However I refuse to do so. I will talk, be there for problems, but as I had a dream the other night, I cannot always be the Rock. My son and his problems, always getting into trouble, same thing, you get in trouble, you will have to learn from your mistakes. So we cannot save them, especially if they don't want to be saved.
I remember another friend many years ago, I could visualize him standing in front of the train. I did push him away from the train, but he only felt the push and didn't like it. He did not see the train coming, though I could. Later on, he did get a glimpse of the train and understood, however, still in the initial 'push' he did not like the push.
Nothing wrong with being a friend to someone who really probably does need to be saved, but we have to withdrawl energy back a bit, as they go through such decision making processes in their life, about choosing the right route for them. If they continue to go down a destructive path, you may need to abandon them altogether. However if they do truly want to work it out, and get better, then nothing wrong being a friend to them. But if they do want you to do all the work for them in saving them, don't do it. You need your energy for your own pursuits, and even such a thing can be an attachment as well. And we do not want to attach to things, even no matter how much we love people.
