Julie and I have just been discussing a similar situation this morning. She is being affected by the manipulations and stupidities of her work area.
The key point, is to use the world for our own path. Too often we adopt an attitude, usually it comes from someone else - attitudes have a life of their own - which is about other people. What they did, why they do it, how they manipulated some person of event, and always how we are diddled in some way. We are aggrieved, insulted, ripped off etc while they have used some devious trick to gain unfair advantage. Always about these other people.
We fill our minds with angst and hurt at their badness.
I can easily say it is a complete waste of time and energy, but unfortunately, we are all so familiar with this that no amount of wise words will ever change us. We have to actually step forth and do something to cut across this command that we angst over the motives and actions of others while ignoring our own chest.
It goes like this.
First we have to come to the decision that we want to disengage in this command. Surprisingly that is the difficult part. Mouthing platitudes isn't going to help. There has to be a genuine decision that we have had enough, and it is time to drop old ways.
Second, we need a strategy to help us. It is almost impossible to do this ourselves, as our minds play such tricks that we end up believing we are free of this command while remaining its slave.
Third we need to be ready to upset everyone around us, because surprisingly enough, everyone is very happy with the prevailing conditions, and they will accord a new person with freedom to define themselves, but not those they already know.
Fourth, we need the power to turn wish into reality. This is where everyone fails. Few realise that we must have personal power to change anything. This is often the reason people see that nothing changes, because they rarely if ever see anyone with personal power.
Fifth, and I can't stress this enough, we need help. The presence of someone in our lives who has been successful in garnering some quantity of freedom and power, and is not trying to use that for their own weak face, is a precious and rare gift, which is almost never appreciated or used.
Then, those with insight, observe a wondrous vision. They see a battle raging between the power of two commands. Between the command of entrapment in the ups and downs of those around us, and the power or influence of the one who has succeeded in switching to another command - the command of freedom.
The command of entrapment almost always wins. Freedom is not a valued commodity.
