MAKE NO MISTAKE!
Stalkers have a very simple rule - if you get offended, you are in the wrong.
We are allowed to get upset, annoyed, frustrated - these are natural human reactions, and they are something we constantly seek to reduce by looking at the source of these emotions - do they have antecedent causes in our past. But if we are offended or insulted by someone else, feel slighted, miffed, etc, then there is self-importance. How do we tell the difference?
1. The natural part is short lived - felt as a psychic slap, or bump... we don’t like it. We like it when someone praises us - felt as a lift.
2. The insult is long lived, we mull over it again and again, we never forget it, we plan revenge, we get depressed, we get angry, we play it over and over in our minds, in our words. Then we justify, justify, justify - concoct elaborate rationales to show how we are in the right, but always underneath we seethe with injured pride. Then, in the worst cases we paint our assailant with a perfect picture of ourselves - funny how accurate we get it. Inside we really do know exactly what we are doing, just that we project this onto the other. Thank god these are the worst cases, pretty close to madness, though I see a lot of it in politics these days.
If you are stewing, can’t laugh at yourself - from a stalker’s view, you are wrong. And worse, only more pain can cure you, with understanding of course.
Now the other person may well have shovelled you a load of crap, but that doesn’t matter - if you got your nose out of joint, then you are wrong, not them.
The correct approach goes like this - first pain, then laugh at your silliness, then consider a response. You see you need to know how to take offence, how to respond - reaction is not response, it is defence and attack. Response is creative, it chooses it’s own timing, it enjoys the game.
Self-importance hates to be criticised, it bristles with indignation at the slightest slight. Self-importance hates snobs, hates elites, hates anyone who thinks their better than it. Self-importance hates anyone who sets themselves up as being above others, above it, and then rushes to pull them down - bring them down to its level (in fact, don’t tell anyone, but pushes them down beneath it, cause self-importance has to be IMPORTANT).
I’m just trying to flesh this out so we can be perfectly clear, that self-importance hates being underneath. There is no escape, this attitude is wrong. Point blank, no argument - it is a mortal sin, and must always be seen as such.
Now by contrast, dignity sees itself as noble, elevated, keeps it’s head up. When challenged, dignity may feel hurt, annoyed, and it may well seek to identify error in its attacker, but it doesn’t suffer from wounded pride, and thus doesn’t seek to belittle the other - rather it asks that the other also put aside it’s vindictiveness and lift it’s own head, it wants to pull the other up, not down. Of course dignity is allowed to yell at an undisciplined dog to stop it, bring it into line - everyone needs to know dog language.
I may be wrong, but I don’t think dignity has any more place in a Toltec stalker than self-importance. A stalker seeks the truth, and has no time for pride, justified or unjustified. A stalker leans slightly forward with an ever so slight mischievous grin, a keen terrifying eye and hands loose but always ready. A stalker plays friendly, plays dignified, plays offended, plays the human harp but never loses its sight from the truth!
