Some like to think that the world around us is how we perceive it. It is true to some extent but some thing are what they are and they don't change into something else if we think about them differently. We can think about them from different perspectives regards to our own situation, but if we step outside ourselves, then they are what they are.
Ah...
In my previous post you questioned whether or not I experience reality the way I was describing things. Or if it was just an interpretation of things. The answer is, at this very moment no, I do not. But everything I described is based off of experiences I have had in the past, during which I did 'see' the world in the way I describe.
I also wasn't describing a state of complete one-ness, though I do believe, based off of the other experiences I have had, that such is possible.
The first time I was in a car waiting for my father to return from the bank, I was maybe about 13. I was pondering what is value, why do things matter, why are things important. A switch flipped in my mind, and I understood that nothing matters. This doesn't mean we don't act as if things matter, but inside we realize they don't, and we remain minimally effected by the external world. In this instance I wasn't experiencing oneness. I only realized that value is subjective, and I that I do not need to cling to my interpretation value.
A big part in coming to the above realization was the fact that what is of value in one context is not of value in a slightly different context. If this is true it is better to not designate fixed value, but instead be ready for whatever comes in the moment. There is not universal absolute fixed right or wrong. You can present any scenario, and I can show you how it isn't absolute, universal, or fixed in stone. Even the golden rule, which is almost universal.
The next time I was out walking my dog Hershey, and pondering "who am I". In this experience I did still see the world of form around me, but I also became aware of a new facet to this world. I could 'sense' the underlying essence of things. In this experience I knew with my whole body that the 'essence' of my being is deeply connected to the 'essence' of everything around me.
Those are just two of the several experiences I have had that point in the direction of what we are discussing.
Also in the previous post I made I provide an exercise, that you could try. If you try it, and are diligent with it, it will shift your perception of reality.
If you ponder what I said in depth you will also likely look at your world differently.
I am very curious what you mean by "step outside ourselves"... I get the sense you mean something different from what I would be saying with that phrase.